How to Stop Pushing Your Kids to Grow Up September 22, 2021 September 22, 2021 admin

It is the new norm to say that you have to stop pestering your children, but sometimes this isn’t the best advice. 

I know that when I was a kid, I used to be afraid of pesterting my children because I was afraid of their response.

Now, I am not afraid of them, but I do not want them to feel the pressure of prying and I am glad that they do not have to.

The good news is that if you are trying to get kids to grow up, it is not always easy, especially if they are your own children. 

My advice is simple, stop prying.

It does not work. 

When it comes to prying, children need to be taught that they are in control.

If you do not teach that, they will not stop pouncing on you. 

Parents who do not give their kids the freedom to grow naturally and naturally, will have their children pester them for hours and hours at a time.

They will pester their children and will not listen to them. 

Children are not the problem, they are the solution. 

If you are looking for a book to give your children this book, then the book is The Pestering Child by Karen Suckling. 

In this book you will learn the secrets of pampering your children so that they grow naturally, and you will also learn that you should not pester your children.

If your child asks, “what do you want me to do?” or “can I ask you a question?” or “can I get you something?” or if your child is asking “what are you doing here?” the answer is NO.

They are not asking you a direct question or to make you uncomfortable. 

This book is a great way to get children to think about their behavior.

This book will teach children that the way to change their behavior is to start by changing their response to the pester. 

You do not need to pester the child, but you need to change the way they respond to you.

I am a big believer in giving kids the ability to make choices and not just to be told what to do. 

The first step is to teach your children that they have choices and that choices are important.

They need to know that choices can make them happy and that a parent does not have the right to take away the choices of another parent. 

Once they have made a choice, it needs to be followed.

If they have not made a decision, they should try again later on. 

After they make a decision and they do follow it, then it is important for the parent to know what choices they made and why.

If the parent has made a wrong decision, it means that they were not listening to their child and it means they did not take into account their child’s needs. 

At the end of the book, you will find a checklist that will help your child see that the child will learn what they have chosen. 

For example, a child can start with choosing from a list of things they want and things they don’t want. 

Then, after the child has chosen something, the parent can ask, “can you tell me what that is?” or, “how can you tell?”

This is an opportunity for your child to tell you.

If a child is not able to do this, then you have not taught them the importance of making decisions. 

A child can only ask so many questions and not always ask the same questions at the same time.

For example, if you ask, “what is this?” and then ask,  what are those?” you are telling your child that they should not be able to choose their own answers. 

So, what is wrong with pester?

“Pester” children can be bullies. “

Pestering” children causes them to think they are being held hostage.

“Pester” children can be bullies.

They can be mean.

They may also be disrespectful.

The worst thing that pester can do is make you feel bad.

Pester makes you feel helpless. 

Second, it teaches children to not be responsible.

You have a responsibility to be responsible and to help your children grow. 

Third, it sets a bad example.

When you give your child a task, you teach them that you do the task for them and not for you.

So, if your children say, “I have to go to work tomorrow,” or, I have a lot of work to do, you have failed. 

Fourth, it makes children feel inferior.

If children have to be pesterted, they feel like they are not good enough.

They feel like their peers and teachers are trying hard to make them feel like it is acceptable to pry. 

Fifth, it leads to isolation.

If pester is used, children are not likely to ask permission.

They have learned that you cannot give them